Felisha is a 23-year-old single mother of two children, ages 1 and 3. She came to the Nurturing Parenting program, offered through Second Step Housing located in Vancouver, WA, hoping to get some help with her 3-year-old son. Day after day, the young boy was put into time-out at his preschool for hitting and scratching his classmates.
“Since coming to this class, and learning about how important it is to help my children learn to express their feelings with words, my son is a different child. My son hasn’t hit or scratched anyone for weeks, and really enjoys that everyone is so proud of his better choices. We talk about things now, instead of me yelling or sending him to time-out.” Felisha reports that she is amazed when her son prefers to talk about his feelings with her. Rather than act out and ‘be in trouble,’ he says, “Mommy, can I talk to you?”
(Melts your heart, doesn’t it?)
Early in our class, we discuss that it can be helpful to get family members, close friends and significant others on board with changes in parenting styles that may arise out of attending the program. Felisha reports that she has been working with her mother, so they parent the children in a consistent, nurturing way. There has been some resistance on the part of the children’s grandmother, and also efforts made. As we are talking, Felisha reminds herself that she needs to look for opportunities to praise her mother for her efforts and ‘quit pointing out every little thing she does wrong.’ In the moment, Felisha notices that this is exactly what we learned about in class “you get more of what you pay attention to.”
“I learned so much in this class. Thank you so much!” -Felisha